The homie was upset about not getting head last night so John said fuck it I. High-profile speculation and outings - particularly if they are of the unkind variety - could harm more than just the subjects of the rumors. If you have socks on its not gay, because youre not committed to the act. So we look at other people who are currently saying that, and we know that there is a significant percentage of them who are lying like we did when we were kids.” Collateral damage “We’re all assumed to be straight, and there’s a time in all of our lives when we’re saying we’re straight when we’re not because we were forced to say that. “You can slap the ‘this is potentially harmful’ label on it and people are still going to do it,” he said. Savage said that harmful or not, such speculation is inevitable. When I was growing up, Tom Cruise was who everyone speculated about, and now it’s Shawn Mendes, because we all wish he would be.” “There’s not a lot of speculation in the gay community that Louis C.K. “Sometimes it’s hard for gay men to separate their ‘gaydar’ from their ‘wishdar,’” Savage said. LGBTQ sex-columnist and podcaster Dan Savage sees it a bit differently from Drescher. They are slander but so it is, and men of mind must be Ah litle think the gay, bicentious proud, aware of this, and they respect and rely upon each. There would be no way a person wouldn’t be made anxious by all of this talk if they didn’t want people to know this about themselves.” ‘Gaydar’ vs. “Even though he may like getting his name in the newspaper and people talking about him, there would be a part of him that would be very, very anxious by all the talk. We hope these construction company memes will tickle your funny bone, whether youre a general. “If it actually is true that they might be gay and people are speculating about it, you’re going to sort of make them feel threatened and endangered,” Drescher said, stressing that he was speaking hypothetically and not about a specific public figure. Im An Older Gay Man And I Know It Will Get Worse.
Jack Drescher, a clinical professor of psychiatry at Columbia University and the author of “Psychoanalytic Therapy and the Gay Man,” said such speculation can be particularly damaging if the subject is actually gay and is not ready to come out on their own terms. “Number two … Why would you want to hide it? That is not the way I run my life.”īut while speculation about sexuality among gay friends has existed as long as gay people have, when the speculation moves to a public forum, it can be damaging, some experts say.ĭr. “The reason why it irritates me is because it means that somebody must think I’m lying.